I Do Not Care - Not The Attitude Of An Aware Person

You don't mind what happens

I do not care what is thought about me. I am immune from the gossip and put downs of other people. Hmmmmmmm.

Are you really? Or is this a brave front you are putting on?

This is easily said but harder to act upon. Though sticks and stones may hurt me . . . is a nice expression, how many of us are really immune to the attacks of others in thought, word or deed - whether meant or innocent in origin?

But being affected can me we care. About ourselves and them. It can mean that we want the best of a confusing or uncertain situation. Or it can mean someone is out to get us and don't mind what they say or do.

Other times we may lash out and innocent bystanders can be in the firing line. We don't like that when that happens to us, so we need be mindful of doing the same ourselves.

So what can we do? We can try to ignore it, but once it seeps in that can prove difficult. We can turn the other cheek. We can retaliate in kind. We can bleat and complain.

Do not care. There are always options.

But perhaps the best option is to have your own protection system in your arsenal. By this I mean being comfortable with yourself, accepting yourself. Being aware that, though you are not perfect, you are doing your best. You will take on board what the other person says. The hardest 'attacks' are those with an element of truth to them. You will inwardly digest, not take it personally, believe that some good may come of it.

You will learn and move on. You will in this way be able to disarm the 'attacker'. They will become bored and move on to easier and more receptive targets.

You may then have a friend or colleague to help and support - but you do that anyway, right?

All best,
Martin