Temporarily Losing Face Will Not Stop Our Journey to Self Improvement And SuccessDeveloping self awareness Losing face will not affect us. We will not let it. We need to learn how to be assertive and how to achieve goals. Then we will be seen in a new light, and recapture our self respect. Our path to developing self awareness is a rocky one. It has challenges and hurdles. Sometimes we stumble but provided we get up and continue our path to improve self worth is guaranteed. Our path of self improvement and success will carry us forward with energy and enthusiasm. Losing face Do you hate losing? Most of us dislike it - even though we may not say it this strongly. We play to win and accept defeat in varying ways. And when or if we ever lose face, that is a similar and unpleasant situation for us. We may feel embarrassed. We may feel angry. We may feel annoyed. We may feel let down, or that we have let ourselves down. How to be assertive We compete hard, play hard, then with experience we then relax. Enjoying our winnings or bathing our wounds - in a figurative sense. We are told to assert ourselves. Fine, give off your best without aggression, false humility, or any type of nastiness. And you can then feel proud of what you do and who you are. Otherwise we can really lose ourselves. But of losing - what is it we dislike about losing?
We are told only winners are welcome, coming second is nothing. Improve self worth And that is part of the problem - the perception of failing to succeed. That coming first is all that is acceptable, the only place that counts. Another part of the problem is that we do not compete on a level playing field. The comparison with others is fine, but perhaps this is the wrong competition, the wrong comparison. What you do for yourself is the key. You are still worthy if you win or come second. You only fail when you do not try . . . How to achieve goals Perform with your own best efforts is a truer way - comparing your own effort with what you have done before - to examine progress. Doing the best that you can and being happy with that. Always striving for more but not beating yourself up if it does not happen - this time. Achieving goals is often down to grim determination. To not saying no. To keeping on going. To not giving in or quitting. Is that something you could agree with? If so, join the happy throng. Join the human race. Sometimes we do well and achieve. Sometimes not so well and come in second or third or . . . Do it with a smile - it is no reflection on who you really are, and how much you really respect yourself (unless you let it). All best, |